What do you do when you feel burdened about your husband’s inaction, rather than his actions? Perhaps you have been in a situation where you are frustrated about your husband’s laziness. If you are someone who has a lazy husband, perhaps you are running out of patience to tolerate his behavior.
Understanding why you have a lazy husband
Some husbands are lazy for several reasons. It could be because of their habits growing up, or it may be caused by responsibilities at work.
In some instances, wives become enablers of their laziness. This means that some women bend over backward to satisfy their needs, voiding them of the responsibilities they should fulfill.
Whatever the reasons are, there are ways to help motivate your lazy husband.
Lazy husband: Is it a deep-seated issue?
If you are a wife who is having suspicions in your marriage, or a girlfriend struggling in your relationship–perhaps there may be some reasons for your partner’s laziness. Sometimes laziness doesn’t just occur in terms of responsibilities at home–it could also affect how your partner gives effort in the relationship.
How do you solve deep-seated issues?
Personalized counseling can help to assess your situation, and also adapting the right principles is needed to develop the right interaction in your relationship.
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5 Ways to Motivate a Lazy Husband
1. Do not be an enabler
An enabler is a person who thinks she is in control, but in reality, she really isn’t. She does the things that are supposed to be her man’s responsibility and bends too much in order to “keep the peace” in the relationship.
The enabler eventually becomes burdened and turns into a nagger, filled with hurts and frustrations about the marriage.
One of the best ways to cure your husband’s laziness is to avoid being an enabler. This means letting him face the consequences of his actions, especially when necessary.
2. Do it together
Perhaps you may be trying to motivate your husband to do certain things but to no avail. You might want him to adopt a healthier lifestyle, get a job, or be more romantic, but he isn’t just not taking the right steps.
A way to motivate a lazy husband is to accompany him to do the task. Some men may be too prideful to admit that they need help. Perhaps a familiar face, an encouragement through actions is just what he needs to get started.
You can jog together, go on dates together, or wait for him in the lobby during his job interview. This is a great way to show through your actions that you are supportive of him. Being supportive of him shows your loyalty, and he will give his loyalty in return.
3. Believe the best in him
We all have the tendency to be negative towards others as a form of self-defense. We don’t want to get hurt or disappointed, and this is why we think bad of some people.
Sometimes, this mindset can also occur when it comes to the people we love the most. This is not very helpful when we want to motivate a lazy husband. You need to show in your words and actions that you believe the best in him.
When we love people, we believe the best in them, even if they disappoint us. That is the ultimate key to their heart.
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4. Show your patience
All relationships have growing pains. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or a marriage of more than a decade, it will always be a learning process.
If you’re finding out that your husband shows things that frustrate you, consider it also an opportunity to grow your patience. Being patient with him, showing forgiveness and encouraging him will help him become motivated with the things that he is supposed to do for you, for himself and for the family.
5. Show kindness, not aggression
One of the most discouraging things you can do for your husband is reacting with a negative mindset.
When some things bother you, you don’t need to see the problem as a burden–you can see it as an opportunity for improvement. When you see things this way, you are less likely to show kindness to your husband, rather than aggression.
Instead of accusing him as a lazy husband, you can focus on what he needs to do. You can set up a schedule he can work on, and you can divide roles together. If you feel like he needs to be more romantic, you can take turns doing things for each other.
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