Do you always find yourself upset over anyone, or even anything that gets your partner’s attention? Perhaps you’re not just a light green-eyed monster, you’ve turned dark green! What causes jealousy in a relationship? Are there ways to overcome jealousy even if you think that there’s no hope?

I’ll let you in a story and a grain of wisdom you shouldn’t forget if you always find yourself jealous.

I am blessed to have a husband who makes me feel secure even if I’m most of the time feeling insecure. However, there are still some things that make me upset especially in the beginning of our relationship. Although he is not interested in talking to women in his workplace, I once found myself feeling upset when he did talk to some of them, though with no intention to harm. That’s the insecurity in me!

Later on, I found confidence in who I am as a girlfriend, and eventually a wife, that my insecurities went away. The combination of his assurance, plus my confidence, helped me to avoid jealousy almost all of the time in our relationship.

So my guideline to people who feel jealous all the time:

It is not just you who needs to do all the work. You must also see objectively if your partner respects you and evaluate your relationship from there. This is one thing I learned from the course Re-Spark the Romance, which helped a lot of couples gain back the connection they lost in their relationship.

If you are interested to know more about how you can improve your relationship, you can watch their FREE VIDEO on how to make your partner feel more passionate about you.

If you think that it is more of your insecurity than your shortcomings, then feel free to make use of these mindsets to help you overcome jealousy.

Five Mindsets to Overcome Jealousy

1. Your partner chose you for a reason

First things first, let’s establish the most important thing. The reason why you have a relationship with your partner is that he or she thinks that you are the best among the others. This should make you feel confident enough that you are the best choice compared to billions of people in the world. What you have with your partner is a special thing.

Many people will try to find love, but fail to do so because of issues in themselves and with their partners. Do not lose the special connection that you have by putting irrational conflicts in your relationship.

2. You are your own person

Here is another important thing to remember to help overcome jealousy. Even if you and your partner are considered a couple, it is helpful to understand that you are also an individual on your own. You have separate interests, passions, hobbies, and goals.

You may have things you share in common, but you are also a separate person. This means that you also have your own time to do the things you want and have the opportunity to do activities that make you happy. Love is all about freedom and respect, and this is what you should offer to your partner so that they can respect your own pursuits as well.

3. Things that are valuable do not shove themselves down people’s throats

When something is valuable, let’s say a precious gem, it doesn’t try to impress people by always making itself show up. Rather it’s a rare occasion that they appear. This can be sometimes true in relationships. When you give too much attention to your partner to the point that it’s suffocating, the less that your attention will be valued.

And so, to overcome jealousy, you must also instill in yourself that your love is valuable. Giving value to it means respecting yourself enough to give it freely when it is appreciated and treasured.

4. Trust means taking your partner for their word

Do you love your spouse or partner? Loving someone means that you trust them with the things they say. If you say that you love your significant other, it is imperative that you show respect by taking them by their word.

When they say that the person they are talking to is “just a friend”, then take it as it is and remove any doubts in your mind. Do not snoop for more information as this would make your partner feel discouraged that you don’t trust him or her.

5. Lessen the petty fights

Previously, I talked about choosing your battles in relationships. It is important to fight only about things that matter. Avoid unnecessary conflict that will only bring in a negative energy in your relationship. Jealousy can also be a cause of petty fights. Do not succumb to creating drama in your relationship. Learn to communicate your boundaries so that everything is clear when it comes to interacting with other people, spending time, and other things that may affect you and your partner.

If these helped you out… remember that:

It is not just you who needs to do all the work. You must also see objectively if your partner respects you and evaluate your relationship from there. This is one thing I learned from the course Re-Spark the Romance, which helped a lot of couples gain back the connection they lost in their relationship.

If you are interested to know more about how you can improve your relationship, you can watch their FREE VIDEO on how to make your partner feel more passionate about you.

Need Counseling?

If you and your partner are suffering from deep-seated issues even greater than jealousy, or you feel like you need more guidance on making your relationship work, you can also try virtual counseling. You can get practical and spiritual insights and specific step-by-step instructions as to how to decide and act depending on your specific marriage or relationship problem. Connect with us here.

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