Have you been in a situation where you feel giddy about something that a special person did? Perhaps he or she didn’t say anything–it’s more of an eye gaze, a subtle action, or the way they have interacted with you, but only to find yourself picking nothing than just that? What do these mixed signals mean? And do they even mean anything at all? Do you wish your special someone would tell you what to do with mixed signals?

My Story About Mixed Signals

When I was younger and naive, I held on to a lot of mixed signals from guys. When I had a crush on a guy, I wouldn’t flirt, but I would silently hope for a sign that they liked me too. Some guys would try to be friendly, send messages to me, but they don’t say anything specific with their intentions.

And so that bothered me a lot because I didn’t know what to do about mixed signals. I kept holding on to them thinking that they hold some “secret” information about how they truly feel.

So this post will be about the lessons I learned from Meet Your Sweet’s Brian, who talked about the things that make men or women feel like they aren’t ready to have a commitment.

According to Brian’s website Meet Your Sweet, I discovered that mixed signals are a response not to who you are as a person. It is more of your ability to do your part in the phase of your interaction. If you’d like to know more about how to successfully navigate your way in mixed signals, you can visit the Meet Your Sweet website.

Here are some of my personal inputs from the website as well as lessons from my previous experiences.

What To Do With Mixed Signals

1. Take them as they are

Social interaction between human beings can be a complex thing. However, when attraction gets into the picture, there may be more confusion that can come into the picture.

So the best way to interact in this situation is to take mixed signals as they are. If he pays for dinner, then he paid for dinner. If she smiled at you, then she smiled at you. It can mean something, it could also mean nothing.

It is better to take mixed signals as they are than assuming too much and end up being heartbroken.

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2. Rely on the overt, not on the covert

Mixed signals are usually subtle actions and words. Since people think and feel differently, something that comes across as “sweet and romantic” to another person may appear as just “friendly” to another.

So my advice to people who are experiencing mixed signals is to rely on the overt, not on the covert signs.

• overt signs simply mean that words are expressed blatantly, such as a guy saying “he likes you more than a friend” or a girl saying that “she is interested in dating you”.
• covert signs mean that subtle seemingly “sweet” actions that make you assume that they like you but was never really mentioned.

The bad thing with relying on covert signs is that they bring too much overthinking and stress on your part. So I say that it is better to ignore subtle signals unless you are 100% sure.

3. Pray about it

My next advice is on the spiritual side about what to do with mixed signals. Mixed signals are a situation of uncertainty and it may be difficult to stay in it for long.

So another way to deal with it is to pray for confirmation about your special someone. Do you feel peace about the person? Do you sincerely believe that dating this person is something you’d like to be in? Does it seem like God is saying “yes” through His revelation in the Word?

You should be able to answer “yes” to all of these questions.

4. Be patient

In order to use this tip, you need to be able to answer “yes” on tip #3 first. If you feel like this person is a match for you and the mixed signals come merely from the beginning phase of your interaction, then it is best to be patient.

You can still pursue the friendship as it escalates into the dating phase. It will help you to be comfortable with your special person and be able to understand more of the way he or she treats you.

5. Be honest with yourself

Another thing to remember is, to be honest with yourself. Some people, deep down inside know the answer by heart. They are just looking for an inkling of hope that this person “might like them back” but they actually don’t. On the flip side, some people try to deny clear signals by being dismissive. In both these instances, these people are not honest with themselves.

One of the core principles of any relationship is honesty. This includes being honest with yourself and with the people you’re interested in.

I hope this post helped you out! Don’t forget to check out more tips and advice for mixed signals and helping improve relationship at Meet Your Sweet.

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