Let’s face it: We all live busy lives. We get up each morning rushing barely eating breakfast, rushing through our day, and before we know it–we are already in best hardly ready to do the same thing in the morning.
It’s hard, isn’t it?
Especially for married couples. This all the more becomes difficult if you are juggling different responsibilities–like maybe, time-sucking jobs? Or even kids!
I have heard many women complain: “My husband has no time for me! All he does is work!”
And when he does have time for you, he is still doing something else.
You feel cold. You feel distant. But he barely notices. What do you do as a wife?
“My husband has no time for me.”
My husband and I used to be in a long-distance relationship. And as you know it, LDRs are super hard.
Not only do you have to battle the distance, you also have to battle the time.
I was working six days a week, and he was juggling his training to become a military officer, working his civilian job, and studying. It’s a difficult place to be!
But with enough patience, understanding, and lots of love, we were able to survive it. Even with the little time we have for each other.
In this post, I will be sharing with you some great insights that I learned over time that helped us stay connected during busy moments.
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Husband Has No Time For Me: What Do I Do?
1. Communicate your need
The first and most obvious thing you should do before attempting anything is learning how to communicate your need.
No, it isn’t in the form of complaints. It isn’t even in the form of nagging.
Nagging will only push your husband away and will create a negative energy between the two of you.
The initial step to helping you build quality time together is expressing your need in a gentle, meaningful way.
The Bible says in Colossians 4:6:
Our words, whoever we speak to, must be gracious and should speak life to those who hear it. If you feel like your husband does not spend time with you, then you can communicate your needs graciously, such as:
“I would love it if we could spend more time this weekend.”
“Would it be nice to take the kids for a short vacation on the next holiday?”
Keeping silent and making him guess your needs is not helpful, and may even frustrate your husband.
2. Focus on the quality more than the quantity
When I feel like my husband has no time for me, I’d rather focus on the quality of moments that we have rather than how often we spend it with each other.
Because the truth of the matter is, we may have all the time in the world, but it doesn’t count if our attention isn’t with each other.
Keep away the gadgets. Keep away the TV. These are good for idle times, but you should also have time to talk about your present life and things that matter to you as a couple.
Have a date night without distractions. Even if it’s only the time you have for each other during the week, it’s more memorable than trying to be with each other in a room where you’re both facing your mobile screens.
3. Keep yourself busy as well
Some women may complain “My husband has no time for me” because they spend too much time obsessing about it.
What do you do as a wife? As a mother? Are there other meaningful passions in your life that you look forward to?
When you spend too much time obsessing over how your husband lacks time for you, the more that you will feel and think negatively of it.
So, I encourage you to find a passion you can pursue.
Do you love reading books? Spending time outdoors? Gardening? Cooking?
Whatever it is, keep yourself busy too, and you will have more empathy towards your husband’s schedule as well.
4. Schedule your quality time
When was the last time that you decided to go on an exclusively romantic date?
Sometimes, your desires may go unquenched just because you haven’t planned it.
If you feel like your quality time together is dwindling, you have to schedule quality time with your husband together.
Block out other plans. Make it a priority.
My Husband Has No Time For Me: Read Up
Did this post help you out? I also encourage you to check out this wonderful book by Heather and Peter Larson called 10 Great Dates: Connecting Faith, Love & Marriage.
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